Yuri Anime and Manga: Validating Lesbian Relationships As Real (June OWLS Blog Tour)

It is is pride month! :3 And for pride month, the blogger group OWLS (Otaku Warriors For Liberty And Self Respect) which I am a part of has decided to celebrate LGBT characters in anime and manga. Here is our prompt for this month:

June is known as “Pride Month” within the LGBT & Queer communities in honor of the Stonewall Riots that occurred at the end of June in 1969. At OWLS, we strongly support individuals who are part of the LGBT & Queer communities as well as individuals who are struggling  with their sexual orientation or gender identity.

Therefore, June’s topic is “Team”… because it functions in two ways: 1) allows individuals to show their support to the LGBT & Queer communities and 2) allows LGBT & Queer communities to express their love to whomever they want.

So for the “Team” topic, we will be discussing our favorite LGBT & Queer characters in anime and other pop culture related media, the impact of the yaoi and yuri genre within LGBT & Queer communities, our personal stories involving gender/sexual orientation, and etc.

Because I am a huge fan of yuri (two girls in love), I wanted to talk about the genre for this post. There is a theme in anime and manga (even outside of the yuri genre) I have noticed lately when it comes to lesbian relationships: they aren’t considered real.

Chinatsu Kiss Yui

Problems With Lesbian Relationships In Japan

Japan has very strict gender roles and traditions, which I wrote about in my Yuri! On Ice piece back in February. Japanese culture emphasizes family- women are expected to have children, take care of them, and raise a family. This is a pretty normal belief for most societies, but nowadays many women may pursue other goals and many people respect that. But in Japan, where social pressure and conformity rule (you read more about this is my graduate paper), going against the gender role of women is considered improper. For example, a while back I remember an incident that happened where a Japanese assembly woman was giving a speech. One of the men in the audience ridiculed her in front of everyone, saying things like “Why don’t you get married? Why don’t you have babies?” This is terrible. At the same time, though, this incident created a huge backlash and people were very upset. On top of this, Shinzo Abe is trying to implement new laws to help women in the workplace. This shows that things are slowly changing in Japan, and yuri manga may help to accelerate the change even more.

However, because of strict gender roles, lesbian relationships aren’t always acknowledged in Japan. Two women being together goes against traditional roles. Two women can’t have children. Two women being together is “different.” The list could go on indefinitely. As I said, I’ve noticed these beliefs showing up in anime and manga. I can’t tell you how many times I have seen the words “But you are both girls…” There is also the problem of two females liking each other, but never actually getting together (the curse of the whole yuri community). I can’t tell you how many times I have seen this, even in some of my favorite series. I think the creators are afraid to acknowledge that two girls can actually like each other.

Sharo and Rise

This is why, in my opinion, Citrus getting an anime is such an accomplishment. The series has its problems, but the two girls blatantly have feelings for one another and actually admit it. Netsuzou Trap getting an anime is an accomplishment too, but I will talk more about it in a second.

Citrus Anime Key Visual

The key visual for the Cirtus anime adaption coming out soon.

Even with these two shows, there is still a lack of yuri anime. If you want to see girls that actually have meaningful relationships with one another, you are going to have to read yuri manga. Many series, known and unknown, show girls in real relationships. There have been some great yuri manga recently been published in English (bless Seven Seas Entertainment!), and even though they show legitimate lesbian relationships, they too hint at some of stereotypes that exist in Japanese society.

Examples Of Negative Stereotypes In Yuri

First, I am going to talk about Netsuzou Trap.  Warning: spoilers! This manga is about a girl named Yuma who finds herself ensnared in a web of cheating and deceit. When she starts dating a boy, her friend Hotaru begins to come on to her. She kisses her and does other sexual things to her. Hotaru claims that they are just “practicing” for when Yuma and her boyfriend get intimate. Except… Yuma and her boyfriend never end up getting intimate, while Yuma and Hotaru continue to play around and “practice.” When Hotaru finally confronts Yuma and says that she is a cheater, Yuma is confused. How is she cheating? And with whom? Obviously, she is cheating on her boyfriend with Hotaru. However, this didn’t even occur to her. They were just “playing around” and it “didn’t mean anything.” But it evidently did. This shows that Yuma didn’t even consider their relationship real in the first place (at least in the beginning).

Netsuzou recently premiered in July. Below is a screenshot further showing these themes.

Yuma and Hotaru Nestuzou Trap Just Friend Both Girls

Yuma and Hotaru Nestzou Trap Just Friend Both Girls 2

In many manga by Milk Morinaga (who is arguably the greatest yuri mangaka of all time), these themes show up as well. In the recent manga series, Secret of The Princess (THIS IS, LIKE, MY ULTIMATE FAVORITE. GO READ IT.), two girls begin dating. But they aren’t dating because they like each other. It’s because the one girl, Miu, wants to date her senpai as a favor. Miu wants to be a princess and wants to be “a perfect bride.” Therefore, the two girls relationship is practice for when Miu gets “a real boyfriend.” As they date and get closer, Miu begins to develop feelings for her senpai, but denies it because “it isn’t a real relationship.”

Secret Of The Manga Manga

This scenario is something I have seen so many times in yuri manga. One girl gets her heart broken because the relationship was never real, apparently. Or they were just going through some kind of phase.

Other times, girls won’t even admit they like another girl because of the social pressure.  In Hana and Hina, also by Milk Morinaga, one of the main characters Hina falls for her friend Hana. At first, Hina doesn’t really think much about the implications of this. She likes Hana because she finds her adorable and sweet. But when Hina starts talking to some classmates about hugging and kissing other girls, they say that two girls being together is “freaky.” From there, Hina goes through an episode of gay angst, fighting with her own identity.

NoteIf you have been harassed about or are struggling with your sexuality and this has caused you to experience anxiety or other mental health problems, please seek professional help from a service like BetterHelp.

Hana and Hina After School

I could literally talk about examples forever (I’ve read way too much yuri manga). These themes exist in almost every yuri manga in some form, even if it is subtle. For example, in Kase-san and Asagao, Yamada is constantly thinking, “But we are both girls!” Some other popular yuri manga that have been published in English with similar themes are Bloom Into You (GO READ THIS) and Kiss & White Lily For My Dearest Girl. I would have liked to have gone into more depth about these, but I already rambled too much about the other manga.

One other theme I would like to discuss is marriage. I have read many yuri manga where there will be two girls in love, but one (or sometimes both) have an arranged marriage. Although the girls love each other, one of them usually feels pressured to go through with the marriage and leaves their true love behind. In Flower of My Heart by Kurokiri Misao (her work is wonderful, please read it), a grandmother tells the story of her and her female lover when they were young. Although they wanted to be together, both of them ended up getting married to men and leading separate lives.

Kin Iro Mosaic Shino Alice Marriage

Positive Themes: Validating Lesbian Relationships

All of the examples mentioned so far have been negative, showing how strong gender roles and stereotypes are in Japanese society. At the same time, however, all of the manga I discussed have good qualities. All of them validate lesbian relationships in some way. Netsuzou Trap is a twisting labyrinth of a story so who knows what will happen in the end… but Yuma does begin to realize her that her feelings for Hotaru are legitimate. In Secret Of The Princess, Miu also realizes that her feelings are real. She gives up trying to be a princess with a perfect prince, and is happy to have her own princess. Hina admits that she is in love with Hana. The grandmother in Flower of My Heart supports her granddaughter’s own lesbian relationship. All of the other manga I briefly mentioned have positive themes as well.

More and more yuri manga has been published lately and hopefully it will continue. You will notice that most of the series I mentioned are only in manga form. If these series are turned into anime, it could really help many girls struggling with their sexuality and other LBGT issues. Citrus and Netsuzou Trap getting anime adaptions is a huge step. Although I do like these two series, they can be pretty ecchi… So, my hope is that some of the more innocent series will be made into anime as well, so yuri won’t be seen as just fan service. Kase-san and Asagao did get a short video, but a full anime adaption is definitely needed.

Watch the Kase-san and Asagao video below!

Even if you aren’t the biggest yuri fan, please do what you can to help promote yuri series. If you are a yuri fan and are not familiar with the series I mentioned, GO CHECK THEM OUT RIGHT NOW! Because getting more yuri manga published and more anime adaptions will help spread the idea that lesbian relationships are valid.


An extended Kase-San OVA, a full Happy Sugar Life anime, and a full Bloom Into You anime have been announced! 🙂

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If you liked this post and want to spread awareness about LGBT or other social issues, please follow the other work of OWLS. Here is the official OWLS blog.

For the full schedule of OWLS’ June blog tour, click here.

You can also check out my last OWLS post here and see all of the previous OWLS blog tours here:

January Blog Tour: Disruptors // February Blog Tour: Flight // March Blog Tour: Sanctuary // April Blog Tour: Colors // May Blog Tour: Strength



26 thoughts on “Yuri Anime and Manga: Validating Lesbian Relationships As Real (June OWLS Blog Tour)

  1. gremriel2016 says:

    Thank you for this insightful post.

    I live in the Netherlands, which was the first country in the world to legalize LGBT marriages with all that it implies. This was done in 2001, so it has been 16 years and no one bats an eye here at gay or lesbian couples. Celebrities can be open about their relationships. This does not mean there isn’t bigotry or homophobia, but those people are a minority now.

    A far cry from the situation in Japan (and most Asian countries, I believe, although Taiwan is going to legalize it as well?).

    I truly hope the situation will change for the better, but unfortunatly it’s something that will come so very slowly.

    On the topic of anime: I have managed to succesfully watch one anime (Akuma no Riddle) and I struggled every second with it. So I’m not really waiting for Netsuzou Trap or Citrus adaptations. What I would watch, however, is a Kase-san anime. So here’s hoping 🙂

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  2. KZO says:

    I like yuri, but I rather promote series without drama that portray gay girls without issues, than those manga full of drama. Of the series here, I feel like Alice and Shino portray the perfect dramaless relationship, and I rather have more of that than teenagers dealing with angst.

    I feel like more series in which being gay is completely okay would help more the cause than trying to bring real life issues to the 2d world.


  3. tsubasasfamily says:

    Great article! Only point that I’ve heard brought up before that I still disagree with is that we need more “innocent” series. To me, the lack of sex has been the whole problem from the beginning in the anime space. Sex is a part of love, and I feel like it helps solidify that, yes, these girls do in fact like each other as more than friends. That’s what makes NTR and Citrus so big for me. The turn-off isn’t ecchi, it’s a “lesbian” relationship that doesn’t go anywhere or forces me to use my imagination (for me. I don’t mean to speak for other Yuri fans lol).

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  4. LitaKino says:

    Hello rai!!

    Like last month I loved loved your post !! I discovered late that I actually like the yuri genre. My first yuri was the well known strawberry panic which I still enjoy to this day. Honestly reading this makes me want to go rewatch !!

    It’s a shame I’ve seen of what you’ve spoke about yuri relationships where the girls cannot admit there feelings for one another and nothing happens after that. Japan I love the country. But strange in there customs that women must bear children, be married just not how that is these days.

    I’ll check out some of the mangas you have suggested as citrus was one I was going to start reading this week.

    Well thought out post dear and informative !!!

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  5. automaticimperfection says:

    Wow, I arrived here through YuriNation, I was most pleased with the article, I’ve read all those wonderful mangas, except the one with the grandmother!! I think it’s hard to fight the idea that being a lesbian or bisexual in Japan is nothing but a phase and girls will grow out of it and find proper men, pfff, but!! Not long ago two women had an awesome wedding (not legal but still cute) with Frozen theme,in Japan, my point is that there is hope, things may slowly change but going slow is better than not going at all!! Best regards, I’ll check other articles on this blog, it’s well written and you seem nice.

    Sincerely, Nancy, a yuri lover Mexican lesbian.

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  6. Remy Fool says:

    While Citrus and Netsuzou Trap do bring some interesting things to the (small) table of yuri anime, both series have a flair for the dramatic and scandalous that may make it hard for viewers to take either seriously.

    Great points about how yuri anime contains both negative and positive stereotypes, but it sure does seem more stacked on the negative side. Hopefully that changes.

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    • Feli Aslan says:

      They are still a fantasy, a fiction after all. No Documentations of lesbian relationships. They have Archetypes, they have their typical Yuri clichés, they suffer flaws through suboptimal writing. Its the same with straight romance and luckily not as bad as with Yaoi. Just as nearly every straight romance story doesn’t wants to tell anything but only play with feelings and sell well, its the same with Yuri. I mean, you can interpret NTR as long as you want, the likely truth is that it doesn’t wants to tell anything about gay relationships or perspectives in japan. It takes the typical tropes from Yuri and plays it edgy and over the top drama. I’ve read some of Kodama Naoko, its always this simply, the only actually good manga she or he has written is Renai Manga because it doesn’t try to be so over the top edgy. A World without Freedom from Kodama Naoko, rape played for edgy drama and suffering. Cocytus is a general clusterfuck of edgy psycho games.


      • Remy Fool says:

        Yeah, I feel the same way about Kodama Naoko’s works. She has mentioned that she loves soap operas and it shows.

        I wrote about my impression on a few of them in the past, but I honestly think I was too lenient on them. NTRap has been getting grilled by me for the most part this anime season, however, and with great pleasure.


  7. mattdoylemedia says:

    Great posting. I really wish more yuri series would get an official English translation. Octave is the big one for me that hasn’t been translated yet. While not just yuri, Shimanami Tasogare is another.


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